There is a huge difference between hearing someone talking and listening to them.
Active listening isn’t easy, but it is a key part of line management.
As a new manager, you need to make learning this skill a top priority in order to get full engagement from your team.
Listen effectively and you will understand your team properly.
Understanding them will help you to build rapport and be more empathetic.
Great leaders know how important being a good listener is.
This guide on good listening skills goes hand in hand with line manager courses!
Why is Listening Important?
As a new manager, you should be asking questions of your peers and senior managers about what it is they want and how they want to achieve it.
Active listening skills are key to getting the most out of conversations!
At the same time, you need to remember to be asking the same sorts of questions of your team members, who also have individual goals and aspirations that they would like to achieve.
By listening to them carefully, you are demonstrating to them that they are important to you and that you value their opinion.
Feeling that their manager will listen to them gives people a sense of control and agency, which is key to building enthusiasm and trust.
Happy and satisfied employees are loyal and become the backbone of any successful company.
Types of Listening
There are a number of different listening styles and techniques that can be applied to your role.
See this breakdown on each specific active listening skill:
This type of listening closely is when you are already thinking of a response before the other person has even finished talking. Unfortunately, this is the most common and easy type of listening.
It is a natural response to the desire to dive in and answer a question.
The problem is that the person doing the speaking can usually sense that you are just waiting for a pause so that you can dive in and answer the question rather than listening carefully.
It also means that you are missing some of their explanation and so might be trying to answer the wrong question.
This type of listening is very responsive to what the other person has to say. It involves focusing carefully on what they are saying and only interrupting to encourage them by paraphrasing.
It also involves using keywords in your responses to show that you are really paying attention!
Mastering active listening skills will help you to make people feel valued with this aspect!
This paraphrasing is matched with eye contact and mirroring their pace, so they don’t feel hurried or rushed through what they want to say.
This is used by very skilled listeners and requires a lot of practice. It is a fumdamental of active listening skills.
Reflective listening literally involves reflecting what the speaker has said to show that you are listening and that they have been understood.
It involves clarifying what the other person is telling you, which helps them to open up and expand on the points that they are trying to make.
Questions are not used just for the sake of responding, but to elicit more information from the speaker. This form of listening is the gold standard for engaging with your team members.
Mastering all of these types will be core to building effective listening skills!
Listening: Meetings & When In Public
Don’t be the manager that holds meetings which are either just announcements or completely for show.
We’re all been in meetings where no-one is really allowed to contribute or ask questions. They’re hugely frustrating as they are such a waste of time.
Now that you are managing a team, you can change things like this. Make sure that meetings are open and encourage your team to contribute and ask questions.
Great listening will help to promote active participation from your team and encourage them to speak up. In a boardroom setting,
Key things to focus on include:
Establish A Good Talking vs. Listening Ratio
Being a good listener in a meeting setting does not mean you need to stop for everyone’s comments or questions. You need to control the meeting and keep things moving, so it’s fine to ask for questions at the end of a presentation.
However, you must make sure that there is plenty of time and energy left for questions and comments so that your team can see that you’re really interested in their thoughts. The amount of time you spend talking versus the amount of time you spend listening is something to really watch.
Be Positive About Questions
When asked a question, smile and use positive language to encourage them and let them know you are really listening.
Responses such as “Great question” or “That’s an interesting point” will let your team know you value their input.
Eye contact is the best and most important way to let someone know that they have your attention.
When replying to questions, make sure that you hold good eye contact with whoever has asked the question.
In addition to your eye contact, your body language needs to be positive and encouraging.
Your voice and body language go hand in hand.
This is another very obvious tell-tale sign of whether you are listening or not. If you’re not facing your team or are slouching at your desk, they won’t feel that you’re interested or taking them seriously.
Ask for feedback
Whether people have questions or not, solicit feedback from your team, especially from those who are shyer and so less likely to come out and give you their thoughts.
This shows everyone that you want feedback, and it shows that person in particular that you really value their opinion.
By doing these things you will find as a new manager, you will get to know your team better and better input from them.
Listening – One to One
A key role for you as a new manager is to provide a safe space for your employees. This will allow them to open up and really be able to discuss important matters with you.
Feeling listened to without being judged make all of us feel more understood and more likely to talk and share ideas in the future. It makes us feel valued and recognised as an individual.
The key areas to focus on for one-to-one meetings are:
Set the scene
Being able to hold a meeting with an employee and listen to them means making them comfortable in their environment. Usually, a quiet office and an offer of water or a coffee will set the tone for the employee, and they are more likely to open up.
Avoid Or Remove Distractions
Meetings where phones are ringing, or people are walking in and out will be frustrating and counter-productive for both of you. Make sure that you can talk uninterrupted for a decent length of time when sitting down for a one-to-one with a team member.
Don’t Interrupt Or Change The Subject
Unless it is a quick clarification, allow the other person to speak uninterrupted. This will allow them to explain themselves fully and ensure that you can start getting to the root of any issues.
Nod And Make Eye Contact
Your facial responses to their conversation will show you are fully attentive and reacting to what they are saying. As above, smile, and use positive body language to encourage them.
Refer To What They Have Said
When you do ask a question, refer to something specific and use their phrase, if possible, to show that you have listened carefully.
Finalise With A Recap
Briefly going back over what has been talked about and picking out two or three points of interest that you may want to action plan will show the employee that you want some concrete actions to come out of the meeting and so make them feel valued.
Good listening skills like these are incredibly important, especially when running a performance review, find out more here!
Like all good skills, to be good at them, we need to practice, and listening is no different.
If you are serious about building up your skills, ask a colleague or friend to tell you a short story, perhaps about their day or an event they attended.
Firstly, listen for the facts and just the facts, such as the time, the place, the weather or what they ate and note them down.
Next, ask them to tell you again, but listen out only for emotions or feelings they expressed in conversation. Were they happy? Did they feel tired or maybe excited?
Finally, ask them to tell you one more time and note down only the things you would like more clarity on to be confident that you understand them.
Practice what sort of questions you might ask them to find out more, and how you can change your body language and tone to encourage them to open up and explain further.
Finally, ask them for feedback. Did they feel you were listening carefully? Did they think your questions were encouraging?
Effective listening skills also show Humility, which is mentioned in our Manager Assertiveness guide here!